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Identifying and releasing anger and self-sabotaging beliefs are important steps to letting go of past heartbreak. Getting negative beliefs and feelings out in the open helps us make space for new love to enter our lives. Watch as Nadette works through her disappointment, sadness and anger from her broken-off engagement.
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This is YourTango.com’s 30 day Life Love Makeover. My client Nadette has just gotten over a breakup of a year long engagement. We’ve done some great work in the past couple of weeks getting rid of some self sabotaging thoughts and building what I call her Diamond Self Identity. So today we’re gonna talk about completely things with your ex and really breaking up with your ex.
This week, we go deep. We have to do the deeper work in terms of healing and the heart-break that’s she’s experienced in losing her ex. Now one of the great things to do to get over you ex is to have a conversation with your ex. I’d like you to sit here.
Ok. I can do that. And he’s gonna sit here. And what I want you to do with him is I want you to begin saying whatever comes to mind.
Ugh, this is so hard! Um, I’m really sorry things didn’t work out. You gave me a lot of joy and a lot of heartache too. I really needed you to comfort me and I knew you couldn’t do that.
Ok, good. Excellent. That was excellent. Now what I want you to do is just see if there’s anything that comes up with your anger and hit the pillow. There’s a lot of pain there I think. Ugh, I’m just so mad. I’m mad that it couldn’t work out! And that you wanted me to be different! And you couldn’t accept me for who I was! And that you didn’t love me unconditionally!
Good! Perfect! Perfect. Perfect. I really loved you. I really loved you a lot and I miss you and I miss feeling your body next to mine. In a lot of ways you were my love mentor. You taught me a lot about how to love myself and appreciate myself; value myself and respect myself. But then on the other side you tore it down. So I’m grateful for what you-
You tore it down. You tore it down!
Wow, wow, wow, wow, wow! Nadette did great. She surfaced a lot of her feelings. She really worked them through. She got to completion. She’s a love heroine. I’m gonna get myself one of these. I don’t really hurt. It really doesn’t hurt anybody.
But it feels good!
So that was really interesting. I know that part of why I’m doing this work for myself is so- in order to share it with other people. One of things is amazing is that this a gift that I can give to my girlfriends. Because I really feel like I was able to let go of those things.
We went up to the roof. Nadette chose different balloons to represent different negative and self sabotaging feelings that she had that went along with her killer beliefs.
I’m not good enough. Sadness. It allowed her to free herself from a strangle hold this negativity has had on her. Fear! It’s not meant to be! Beautiful! Beautiful work. Beautiful.
Thank you. Hahhh!
We’re gonna go shopping. Next week we’re gonna get Nadette a makeover that’s in line with her Diamond self and a haircut that’s in line her Diamond Self. And we’re gonna send her on a hot date so you’re not gonna miss that one.
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