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Even though everything is going great in your marriage, it seeems as if you and your wife have had less time to be intimate. If you're not sure how to get your partner interested in sex again, here's what you need to do.
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This is Dr. Bruce Stern with Ask An Expert answering all love and relationship questions. Today’s questions is: I recently started to realize that the only time my wife and I ever have sex is when I sweet talk her into it. I feel like this for a hundred times before she appeases me. How can I get her interested in me again?
What you're referring to is a very common dilemma that exists in many sexual beds in America. In fact sexual disinterest is the biggest problems today. It is not unusual to hear that people haven't had sex one year in two years. This is due to with a lack have a strong sexual dynamic between men and women today. We don't have men you can really support their masculine nor do we have women who can really support their feminine. Instead we end up with something that many of you might not wanna hear but we end up with hard women and mushy men.
And that does not make for sexual excitement. Now, Your current plan of begging and appeasing is working against you. What you're doing is letting and see you, experience you as a feminine man. She's not going to respect you from that place so I want to help you stand up to her. But it's not going to be in the way that you might expect. I want you to stand up and tell her “I really wanna know about his sexual disinterest in me. What is involved in it? What exactly are you saying to me?” You'll have to pursue that because she might initially take you seriously and let her know that you're really serious. “I want to know about this”.
And if you can accomplish this for the first time you have a much clearer picture of what her actual disinterest may be. She doesn't like how you touch. She doesn't like how you talk. She doesn’t like how you kiss. Whatever it is you will have a clearer picture of this and that will give you an opportunity to make some change. But before you do that I want you to ask her, “Okay I understand where we're at now. What will make a difference what can I do to make a change here that will really make a difference not just keep this pattern going. And are you willing to trust me that I'm willing to do that?” Just by you taking on that kind of strong position, you'll already be sending her a different message.
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